The other night a friend of mine hit me up on IM with a simple question: “Where are all the good men?” Jokingly, I responded, “At the library.” Clearly not amused, she pressed me further, “No, seriously, where are all the good men?” “Hell if I know, they’re probably off hiding somewhere with all the good women,” I countered. “LOL.” Thinking back on the IM conversation and the current state of dating for most singles, maybe I was right about all the good men and women being at the library.

With people more concerned with “hooking up” than forming lasting relationships these days, maybe the good men and women exist only in fairytales and love novels. I say this because the storybook endings we were sold as children seem to be just that, stories. Where are Cinderella, Snow White, Prince Charming, Romeo and all those other super lovers and diehard romantics? I don’t know about y’all, but I don’t seen many horses and carriages or chicks with glass slippers in my daily travels.

So where are all the good men and women? The club? Sorry, I retired from that scene a long time ago—too many strobe light honeys and hangovers. The street? New Yorkers are way too jaded and defensive to strike up any meaningful conversations on the street—besides approaching women on the street ain’t my style. The office? Not only would that violate most corporate sexual harassment guidelines, I work from home now and there ain’t many females floating by my desk. The gym?

What’s your take on the dating prospects these days? Do you find it hard meeting someone worthwhile? Where do you go to meet men and women? Have you tried online dating? How have friend referrals worked out for you? If you’ve been single for a long time, do you feel like you’ll never meet your Mr. or Mrs. Right? Is anyone’s biological clock starting to tick? Where do you think all the good men and women are?